That is when I knew that my medicine is being a peaceful warrior and my power is love, compassion, kindness, and empathy. I walked down the mountain bathed in faith which had replaced the fear. I buried my old stories up on that mountain and came down renewed with a deep sense of self. I saw what mattered most to me and I saw the powerful woman I am after releasing her from the chains of the ego. I realized I had fallen away from my spirituality and when I don't believe in something greater than myself I fall out of alignment and everything else gets out of whack too.
This is the clearest I have felt in a long time and it was all after I spent weeks doing work that helped me heal and grow without distractions. I set boundaries and was clear about who and what I allowed into my sacred space.
I have come to the conclusion that social media is a major distraction for me. And, in my opinion it's a distraction for many people, but especially women, from doing the work they were born to do. We are here to stand and lead from our hearts, our intuition, and our individual strengths. We have way too much healing to do before we can start showing up in a world that desperately needs us.
I am not procrastinating anymore. I am choosing to be present in my life and to do my work so that I can serve others and share my medicine. As human beings, we are all being consumed by the distractions of social media, but I am talking to you Goddesses. Social media means nothing at the end of the day and its not serving your greatest potential in your creations, medicine, and teachings. Its a distraction and an illusion holding us all back from our highest self. It's all noise from what truly matters and what truly matters is our participation in the real world, our community, family, etc.
This is the happiest I have felt since I joined social media. I have deeper connections and engagement with the people around me and everyday I am actively working towards leading my life from my truth.
My mind is free from strategizing for posts, insecurities, self-doubt, and comparison that I felt while on social media. I literally have more time for play and constructive work. Social media not only robs you of your physical time it robs you of your mental and emotional time. Its a burden I no longer have to feel and I have more space for things that serve me and my truth.
I am more present in my own life and the people in it. I am present in every thought, decision and action I take and I am confident in each one because I know that its from my heart (my spiritual body) not my ego. When I am more present I feel more, I love more, I be more. That cloud has completely lifted and I feel the sun kissing my heart again with lightness and warmth.
Quitting social media has saved me from myself. I have empowered myself to show up in my own life and take responsibility because I am worth it. Sierra always says, "Love is the greatest force when grounded by action and responsibility." Women, its time we take action and we take responsibility. Reclaim your life and reconnect to your medicine. Whatever it is, this world needs it and is better off with it than without it.
My intention this summer was not to quit social media. It was to find myself again and to let go of what didn't serve me. Through this journey I realized that social media was something that was holding me back from myself and my potential.
I am able to use the tools I received over the summer and apply them to my daily life so that I can continue to speak and act from my truth. I will blog and send out newsletters so that I can communicate with you but I will not be participating on any social media platforms. And as my work unfolds I will share it with you, but I will not be offering anything until I have something wise and worthy to say, until then I am retreating to silence. I have to walk the talk now.
Like the wolf, we must learn to be alone and with our pack :-)
Are you ready to take action and responsibility in your own life? Here are 6 actionable steps you can take to cut social media out of your life and start living more.
1) Set boundaries - It's important that you are very clear about your boundaries. Take charge of what you do and don't want in your life. On a piece of paper draw a big circle. In the circle write down what you do allow into your life (sacred space) and on the outside of the circle what you do not allow into your life. I also suggest deleting all of your social media apps. If you HAVE to do this for work (if you can afford a social media person...do it!) then schedule your posts (1-2 days per week) and GET OFF. NO SCROLLING!
2) Light a candle and set a daily intention - What do you want to get out of your day? What is your intention as you move through your day? Think and reflect on #1, what do you want to bring into your sacred space and what do want to keep out?
3) Seek a professional - This isn't another 30 day challenge or a "break." This is part of your healing process from current and past traumas. This work starts and ends with you but you can call upon teachers, coaches, therapists to help you by providing tools while on this journey to self-love and empowerment.
4) Journal - Journal about how you feel during this time away from social media. Take note about your thought behaviors, whether or not you have more time, the urges you have to check your phone and why you have those urges. Don't judge, just observe the process and how it effects you positively or negatively.
5) Find a hobby - Seriously. Tap into the the right side of your brain and get lost in creativity. The right side of your brain helps you to feel more and taps into your intuition. Try pottery, make jewelry, cook, draw, paint, write, move, etc. Find something that helps you to feel present and helps you to get out of the left side of the brain that is always scanning for information. Feel the creative input in your body and mind. You think you won't have time but trust me, the time you don't spend on social media will leave with an ample amount of time for new creations, adventure, and pleasure :-)
6) Be patient. You will feel impulses to check your social media accounts because you will feel like you are missing out on something. Trust me, you are not. When you feel the urge to login, separate yourself from your device and give your hands some busy work. If you feel the urge to connect then call up a friend or a family member to talk to or write a letter. Connect in real life! Call up some friends and do something fun or engaging without devices or enroll into some kind of program.
Until next time,